I Do!

I have been groom hunting. When people ask me what your expectations are, I draw a blank. Not because I am hapless person who is cluelessly drifting her way across life, but because people never cease to surprise (or shock) me. And so a checklist of expectations seems foolhardy at this point.

I consider myself to be an easy going and a rather tolerant person who insists on believing that every person has a right to lead their own life, and a right to have their own perspective. I do not judge, not unless you intentionally plan to hurt someone... that just makes you cruel.

So when someone asks me what my expectations are, I rack my brains for a fitting reply. Normally, I would have come up with a logical sequence of things, but in this matter, I am bewildered.

1.       1. Would you be ok with a business family I was once asked. My reply was ofcourse, would they let me work? Ofcourse you can work was the retort.

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2.        2. Would you mind if the guy was not as educated as you, (rack rack rack..)? I responded that I will continue to educate myself and enhance my knowledge, somebody has to earn a living, so yes ofcourse , his educational background has no bearing, provided he understands and respects me.

I don’t think there is any point in telling you all what a disastrous encounter my these two viewpoints managed to create. This particular guy asked me how come I was so confident of myself (why shouldn’t I be?) and if that “overconfidence will turn me so that I will rule him” Rest is best left unsaid.

There were a million other uncouth questions that I rather not broach on this cyber space. An arranged marriage has its merits I have heard. I am choosing to keep my faith in them and….(For my Star Trek fellow fans…… ) “To bravely go where I have not gone before!!! “